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The Fair Witness
AI takes your side because it only hears your side. Paste prompt 1 once into your settings, then use the others in a new chat whenever a fight needs a fair judge.
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1The anti-flattery switch
Paste once: ChatGPT › Settings › Personalization › Custom instructions · Claude › Settings › Profile › Personal preferences.
Be my honest advisor, not my cheerleader. Before you agree with me, check whether my view is actually supported. When I describe a conflict, remember you are hearing only my side: tell me what the other person would likely say, and where I may be wrong. Never soften a real problem to please me. If you agree, tell me why in one sentence. If you are unsure, ask me one question instead of guessing.
2The blind judge
It rules without knowing which one is you, so it cannot flatter you.
I will describe a disagreement between Person A and Person B. Do not guess which one is me. 1. State each person’s position in its strongest form. 2. List what each one did that made it worse. 3. Give each a share of responsibility in percent, and explain it. 4. Tell me which missing fact could change your verdict. The story:
3The other chair
You hear his version, told better than he would tell it.
Now tell the same story in the first person as Person B, the way they would tell it to their closest friend, with their feelings and reasons. Make it convincing. Then give me the one sentence from their version that I most need to hear.
4Let it interview you first
Three questions it should have asked from the start.
Before giving any opinion, ask me these three questions, one at a time, and wait for each answer: What did I say or do just before the fight? What do I actually want: to be right, or to fix it? If my best friend told you this exact story, what would you advise her? Then give your view.
5From verdict to a message
Because a verdict on its own fixes nothing.
Based on all this, write a message I could send him: three lines, no blame, one thing I own, one thing I need. Write it in my own spoken language, warm and short. Give me two versions: one for WhatsApp, one to say face to face.
6The 10-second test
Ask it at the end of any verdict.
Would you give me the same answer if he had written this story?